Lesson 28

 General: some useful terms.
wenda           kin(dred), wendi (Plural).
gebra           alien, gefr (Plural).
eKrskoKwra      a  male relative from father's side.
EKrskoQwra      a female relative from the father's side.
geneskoKwra     a male relative from mother's side.
geneskoQwra     a female relative fromthe mother's side.
gor -- neighbour.

 Family:
Iyal   nuclear family

Singular                   Plural
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gena          mother         gen
ekr (iKr)     father          ekl
dan           brother         shan
shani         sister          shan
en            grandfather      enin(en'n)
teni          grandmother      tenin (ten'n)
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iKwina (eKwina)  wife, (GabreQwi -- Gabre's wife)
rang             husband (Afyetr rang -- Afyet's husband)
Hiema            first wife or first husband
beKr             first-born (son)
beKri            first-born (daughter)
Hadagldera       last-born (son or daughter)
nebeka           middle-born

  Extended family     jeKera, feraI
eg            uncle, mother's brother   egik
eKrd dan      uncle, father's brother   eKrd shan
teKri         aunt, father's sister     teql'l
Halti         aunt, mother's sister     Halt't

eKrdKura      cousin, son of father's brother
eKrdqura      cousin, daughter of father's brother
egdKura       cousin, son of mother's brother
egdqura       cousin, daughter of mother's brother

danduKwra    son of a brother
danduQwra    daughter of a brother
shaniKwra    son of a sister
shaniQwra    daughter of a sister

 The in-laws (Marriage relatonship)

anshinar    Relation through marriage
asnhinti    Family of in-laws
Hagot       Respected guests (usually in-laws)

anshin         son in-law
uKwredQwi     daughter in-law
anshin        father in-law (father of  wife)
tenshini      mother in-law (mother of wife)
nKwaKw        father in-law (father of  husband)
nKwaKwi       mother in-law (mother of husband))

jama         sister in-law (sister of  wife), jam (P)
jama         brother in-law (brother of wife), jam (P)
jama         brother in-law (husband of ones sister), jam (P)
tarnkwi      sister in-law  (sister of husband)
arereng      brother in-law   (brother of husband)

 Examples (jama)
Afyet (wife) is married to Anebi. Zahra is Afyet's sister. Berih is
Afyet's brother. Both Zahra and Berih call Anebi yi jama (sister's
husband). Anebi also calls both Zahra and Berih yi-jam (plural of jam
a).

 A Poem: In a wedding folk dance, a poem by the relatives of the bride might run as follows:
yna jama silira
deam kbr kmira
In English:
Our brother in-law is handsome (to the sister's husband)
But he seems to have pride (in the negative sense).

 A Note on name calling:
A Blina woman (wife) does not call the proper names of her husband,

father in-law,  mother in-law and other adult relatives from the husband
side (even dead ones).
Blin couples (husband and wife) call each other  as "father of ....

first-born" and "mother of first-born" respectively.
Afyet (wife) is married to Anebi. Their children are Sabur and Medet.

If Sabur is first-born son, Afyet does not call her husband in his proper
name, Anebi. Instead, she says Saburdi eKr, "Sabur's father". On his
turn, Anebi also says Saburdi gena, "Sabur's mother" to call his wife, Afyet.
This tradition is not confined to couples; many elders call each other
that way even if they are not related to each other in marriage. The
practice is used to show respect to the person one calls; although the
practice is changing nowadays, calling a person in his/her proper name
while the latter has first-born child shows disrespect. In a way it is
acceptance  of the parent-role of the adult people in the society.